Learned something today during a self work session, food for thought;
Shame, guilt, hate and love
Shame is a social construct; we feel shame when we feel we crossed someone else’s standards, but guilt is a personal construct; it is about our own standards we somehow crossed or neglected.
As long as we are in a state of either guilt or shame we can’t heal ourselves nor move forward, it means we have to pause and examine it and resolve it to move ahead.
Ask yourself why you feel like this?
Guilt comes from believing you didn’t do right by your own standards not that you didn’t do right by someone else’s. It’s a belief you carry and it is not true. It’s your own standards not that of others, even if it’s your own kids.
Shame is a result of social conditioning. What we are taught and believe what is accepted or not in society becomes a construct we need to abide to or we feel shame over crossing that societal construct, again; it’s social conditioning and often outdated inherited beliefs and programming.
Also, hate is not the opposite of love, indifference is the opposite of love.
Hate still keeps one preoccupied with the object the hate is directed to and so hate is very similar to love.
Love to hate or hate to love or love/hate relationship ;-) lol
And this is why forgiving, accepting and letting go of the past is an important end product. It serves YOU and not the one you forgive. Because you release the emotions that keep you stuck and recycled. That’s your freedom, not a freedom you give to others. They have their own emotions to release and deal with, trust that.
“All suffering has an end, when we arrive there, a gate opens to higher realms. From this place we get a better view and deeper understanding of what we had been experiencing, we clearly see how we can resolve it and clear away the beliefs and programming we were subjected to. It is not possible to clearly see this from the lower perspectives and inside the dream stages, illusion beguiles us into believing we are going towards a certain outcome but on our journey as we rise higher we realize that it is much greater than that.”
Sabrina S Goeldlin